This past week, Mike and I celebrated our 25th wedding anniversary. This is a milestone we have been looking forward to, but only because it is associated in our minds with a trip to explore Ecuador. When friends and family asked what we were doing to celebrate, we said, "Nothing now. Going to Ecuador in a few months." In our minds this milestone has become strongly associated with a life change for us. Although we are not done being parents, and never will be, we are looking forward to launching our kids on their own lives.
I have to keep telling myself not to feel guilty about wanting to do something for us, for a change. Like most parents, we have spent the past 20 years putting our kids' needs ahead of our own needs. That is as it should be, but I have also learned that sometimes you have to put yourself first.
I feel very strongly that this trip is the start of something special and different for Mike and I. If we do move to Ecuador permanently, we can look forward to a slower pace, different work, different culture and a different community. I am keen to become fluent in Spanish, and possible teach English to the local citizens of our community. Mike is interested in learning about the customs, and especially the food in South America. He might end up growing coffee beans, or brewing beer, or running a guest house.
So what does this mean to us? A chance for adventure, new challenges and new friends. A change of pace, a change of lifestyle, more simplicity and more time with nature. A place where we can invite all of our friends and family to visit and enjoy the beautiful weather and the relaxing lifestyle. Maybe I am expecting too much, but I would rather reach for the moon and fall short, than never try anything new.
